I called my mom confused and bewildered. I was 19 or 20, and in college and was facing a difficult challenge. I was living with some friends in a house close to school, and being on your own is not always easy. My roommates and I were trying to save money by preparing our own meals instead of always going to the school dining hall, which was pretty pricey, and there I was, staring at a 10 pound bag of potatoes, wondering what on earth you do with these things. Now don’t get me wrong – I was not raised by clueless parents, and I was not totally helpless to feed and care for myself. I knew how to cook and do all the basic things that a person needs to know how to do – but for the life of me I could not remember in that moment how it was that my mama made mashed potatoes. So I got on the phone, a little confused, a little perplexed, looking for something really basic from my mama. I said “Mom – how do you make mashed potatoes?” She laughed a little, and then she walked me through the process of washing the potatoes, peeling and cutting them up, and boiling them and mashing them with good stuff like milk and butter. Then the next time I came home, before I left, she handed me a book – a Better Homes cookbook that covers all the basic things you need to know about cooking, including how to make mashed potatoes. She said: “after that phone call, I knew that it was time. You needed to have this book.” My mama, and my dad, my wonderful and patient parents, have helped me over and over to navigate through the sometimes turbulent waters of living life. Sometimes it was through simple words, sometimes it was through thoughtful gifts like a cookbook, sometimes it was just a home cooked meal, complete with a cooking lesson, that helped me find what I needed at that moment.
In our reading for today, the disciples ask Jesus for something that they felt they needed. They asked Jesus to teach them how to pray. Maybe they were a little perplexed, maybe they were confused or even bewildered at the subject – it is easy to get bogged down when you pray, feeling either that your words aren’t fancy enough, or that you aren’t saying the right things in the right way, or that somehow your just aren’t getting your message across in the proper way to the Almighty Creator of the Universe by whose very will and pleasure you even exist. I mean, it can be deeply intimidating if you stop and think about it – how is it that we even dare to approach God, a holy and sovereign God whose ways are mysterious and different than our ways, as the Scriptures tell us. So the disciples ask Jesus to teach them how to pray. Not why to pray – that part is obvious to most of us. We are powerless, and God is powerful, and we need God’s help to get through big things and little things in life. What the disciples ask is how to pray – which maybe you could think of as a question of form or technique (like what words do I say when) but I think they are really asking a question of attitude of approach. “Lord,” they ask “how is it that we should approach God in prayer? What should our attitude be? Should we come with guilt and shame, beating our chests and wailing about our sinfulness? Should we give God a laundry list of all of our wants and desires that we feel like God should work on for us? How does this work, Jesus?” They had seen him praying often, and they knew that he understood how it worked. They knew he knew the recipe for deep, rich, meaningful prayer.
And what an answer Jesus gives the disciples. He did not give them complicated guidelines for their prayers: “When you pray, face east by southeast, and you must bow three times touching the ground with your forehead, and then you must chant the following phrase for precisely ten minutes, and then, and only then can you begin your prayer…” No, the instructions that Jesus gives are remarkable mostly for their simplicity! He says: “Pray like this: “Father. Hallowed by your name. Your kingdom come. Give us everyday our daily bread. Forgive us our sins, as we forgive everyone indebted to us. And don’t bring us to the time of trial.” That’s it. That’s the prayer that Jesus teaches the disciples –at least according to Luke. The version we say most Sundays in our worship service comes from the gospel of Matthew, and adds a few phrases here and there, but the gist is the same, and what comes across is simplicity. Jesus tells those first disciples, and the disciples struggling through life today, that prayer doesn’t need to be a complicated thing. Christ tells us that prayer is a matter of first recognizing the holiness and power of God – that is the starting point for every prayer. If God wasn’t powerful, wasn’t “mighty to save” then what would be the point in praying to begin with? Then, we ask for God’s kingdom to come – which is a way of focusing our energies and attention on God’s desires and dreams for the world. In prayer, we are tuning our hearts to be in harmony with God’s heart. We want God’s Kingdom to arrive and flourish in all of its glory, and not to elevate our own little kingdoms. And then, once we are focused on God’s holiness and God’s desires for the world, we ask for what we most deeply and desperately need. Food, enough to keep the body going for that day. Forgiveness, to free the soul and to empower us to live in peace with our fellow human beings. And deliverance from trials, shelter from the storms in life that set us back and send us spiraling into despair. And all of this is addressed to “Father” – really, the word Jesus uses is “Abba,” which means “Daddy” in Aramaic, a term of endearment and love. Prayer doesn’t have to be complicated, with rigid forms like a magic spell or something like that – Jesus’ recipe for prayer has God’s children asking a loving Father for what they most need in life, without flourish or pretense.
And then Jesus tells a story that goes sort of like this. Suppose a man has a guest arrive in the middle of the night. He is out of bread, the most basic food, and if he is out of bread, you better believe he is out of everything else, too. He really needs to make his guest feel welcome, and with all of the stores closed at that late hour, the only option he has is to go to his friend, who lives across the street and to beg for bread in the middle of the night. Now what do you think the friend will do? Do you think he would say: “Go away! I’m in bed here with my wife and kids and we are all tucked in and I’m not getting up to give you any bread or anything else for that matter!” No – if not out of friendship, then at the very least because there is banging on the door and he wants his neighbor to go away – the man would get the bread that he needs from his neighbor.” And then Jesus drives his point about prayer home: “So ask, and it will be given to you; search, and you will find; knock, and the door will be opened to you.” Just like the man who was knocking on the door got the bread that he needed from his grumpy neighbor by knocking on the door, don’t you think that God will oh so more willingly give you what you need. Jesus continues: “If your children ask you for things that they need, and even you who are broken and imperfect and sinful will give your kids what they need, then how much more will God, who is holy and merciful and loving and generous give you what you need.
In giving the disciples a recipe for authentic prayer, and telling them a story to help explain how it all works, a picture emerges of God and how we, as his children, offer prayers. God is not like the neighbor in the middle of the night – reluctant, sleepy, begrudgingly throwing us just enough to get by. No! God is the opposite – when we ask for what we need, we will receive it. When we search for what we must have to get through the day, we find it. When we knock on God’s door, it is opened to us willingly and with love. And this is not only for the pure, only for the sanctified, only for the select few who have climbed to the top of the mountain and spent hours in meditation – no, Jesus says that everyone who asks, receives; everyone who searches, finds; everyone who knocks on the door to God’s heart finds the door opening wide to receive them.
Now some of you may be thinking: so I don’t have everything that I’ve ever asked of God. I’ve prayed for some things for years and I didn’t receive it. I think it is important that we distinguish between what we want and what we need. We might sometimes pray Janis Joplin prayers: “O Lord, won’t you buy me a Mercedes Benz…” We might end up praying to God asking for all kinds of things that we want – as though God were a genie bound to our service. But that is not what Jesus is teaching us – no, God is a loving parent, a Father generous and willing to give his children what they need to find freedom and full humanity, not a Heavenly ATM machine giving us everything that we want. We might want fast cars and HD tvs, but we need bread from God’s hands to survive, we need forgiveness to thrive, we need God’s power and strength to get us through life’s trials. To quote the Rolling Stones: “you can’t always get what you want, but when you try sometimes, you find, you get what you need.” We may be asking for things that we want, thing to fill our bellies with empty calories, or the latest or the flashiest trendy thing that we feel will help us seem whole to our neighbors. But what we need is bread, real, whole, true bread from heaven; and forgiveness for our sin that spills out from us to affect all of our relationships. Those things are things worth praying for, and our honest, heartfelt prayers for what we most need are heard by a loving, merciful God, who sends us the Holy Spirit to strengthen us and heal us, to comfort and to guide us, to sustain us for the journey of life.
It may be that it is midnight for you. It may be that you have been recently awakened from your normal pattern of life to find that you are in need, in need of bread, in need of a receptive and generous ear, in need of a friend who will open the door to help you with what you need. You may be facing trials, literal or symbolic, you may be hungry for bread, spiritual or physical; you may be burdened with your past and the ways you have hurt yourself and those around you with your choices. Well here it is, a way out, a way to get what you need – prayer. What a friend we have in Jesus Christ, a true and close friend who will give us what we need if we ask, if we search for him, if we knock on his door. What a privilege to carry everything to God in prayer, a loving Father who answers everyone who asks, and searches, and knocks, even in the midst of the darkest night. So don’t be ashamed – if you need it, ask God. If you are looking for answers, search out God. If you are knocking on doors, only to find them slammed in your face, call on Jesus. He is waiting, full of love and mercy, eager to open the door for you, a door to a new life.